This is a ten-part series – based on John Maxwell’s Best Selling Book “Put Your Dream To The Test: Ten Questions To Help You See It and Seize It!” This week, Pastor G talks about “The Ownership Test: Is My Dream Really MY Dream?”
Be the change you want to see in the world. ~ Mahatma Gandhi
Delight yourself in the Lord; And He will give you the desires of your heart. ~ Psalm 37:4
A dream is an inspiring picture of the future that energizes your mind, will, and emotions, empowering you to do everything you can to achieve it.
A dream is the seed of possibility planted in the soul of a human being, which calls him to pursue a unique path to the realization of his purpose.~ Sharon Hall
The Ownership Question: Is my dream really my dream?
(TRUE OR FALSE)
1) I’d be the person in the world most pleased if I accomplished my dream.
2) I have publicly shared my dream with other people, including those I love.
3) My dream has been challenged by others, and I still embrace it.
A possibility is a hint from God. One must follow it. ~ Soren Kierkegaard
You can have everything in life you want, if you will just help other people get what they want. – Zig Ziglar
The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation. ~ Henry David Thoreau
THE THREE TOP EXCUSES I HEAR FOR NOT PURSUING YOUR DREAM
EXCUSE #1: DREAMS DON’T COME TRUE FOR ORDINARY PEOPLE
I can do all things through Him who strengthens me. ~ Philippians 4:13
You are the apple of God’s eye. He loves you and He has a wonderful plan and purpose for your life. ~ Pastor G
You are never given a dream without also being given the power to make it true. You may have to work for it however. ~ Richard Bach
EXCUSE #2: IF THE DREAM ISN’T BIG IT’S NOT WORTH PURSUING
TRUTH: Only God can count the apples in a single seed!
I am only one; but still I am one. I cannot do everything; but still I can do something; and because I cannot do everything, I will not refuse to do the something that I can do. ~ Edward Everett Hale
EXCUSE #3: IT IS NOT THE RIGHT TIME TO PURSUE MY DREAM
This excuse comes in two sizes:
A) IT’S TOO SOON TO PURSUE MY DREAM!
B) IT’S TOO LATE TO PURSUE MY DREAM!
HOW TO TAKE OWNERSHIP OF YOUR DREAM
1) BE WILLING TO BET ON YOURSELF
2) LEAD YOUR LIFE INSTEAD OF JUST ACCEPTING YOUR LIFE
3) LOVE WHAT YOU DO AND DO WHAT YOU LOVE
If you do what you love, you will never work a day in your life. ~ Anonymous
4) DON’T COMPARE YOUR DREAM (OR YOURSELF) TO OTHERS
When they entered, he looked at Eliab and thought, “Surely the Lord’s anointed is before Him.” But the Lord said to Samuel, “Do not look at his appearance or at the height of his stature, because I have rejected him; for God sees not as man sees, for man looks at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.” ~ 1 Samuel 16:6-7
You come to me with a sword, a spear, and a javelin, but I come to you in the name of the Lord of hosts, the God of the armies of Israel, whom you have taunted. This day the Lord will deliver you up into my hands, and I will strike you down and remove your head from you. And I will give the dead bodies of the army of the Philistines this day to the birds of the sky and the wild beasts of the earth, that all the earth may know that there is a God in Israel, and that all this assembly may know that the Lord does not deliver by sword or by spear; for the battle is the Lord’s and He will give you into our hands. ~ 1 Samuel 17:45-47
Success is doing the best you can, with what you have, wherever you start in life. ~ Pastor G (Paraphrasing President Teddy Roosevelt)
If someone is regularly trying to silence or dismiss your hopes or deny your progress in pursuing your dream you need to face the painful awareness that maybe that person isn’t actually your friend.
IF YOU CAN’T ANSWER “YES” TO THE OWNERSHIP QUESTION YET
1) Get better connected with yourself and your dream.
2) Develop enough confidence to take ownership of it.
(That’s your self-coaching homework for this week.)
GO DEEPER DISCUSSION QUESTIONS & PERSONAL STUDY
READ: Psalm 37:4
1) What are “the desires of your heart?” What is one of your dreams?
2) Do you believe God wants you to accomplish your dream? Why or why not?
3) According to this Scripture, how can you be sure that God will work to help you accomplish your dreams?
1) If you are able to identify and verbalize your dream, look at the following three statements. Can you answer “TRUE”to all three?
1) I’d be the person in the world most pleased if I accomplished my dream. True or False? Why?
2) I have publicly shared my dream with other people, including those I love. True or False? Why?
3) My dream has been challenged by others, and I still embrace it. True or False? Why?
READ: The quotes by Soren Kierkegaard, Zig Ziglar and Henry David Thoreau in the notes above.
1) Do you believe a possibility is a hint from God? Why or why not? If you determine that it is a hint from God, why is it important that you immediately follow it without delay or hesitation? What would keep you from responding immediately and enthusiastically?
2) Do you think Zig is right? Will helping enough other people get what they want insure that you will get what you want? Why or why not? In what ways have you seen this play out in your life? Who have you helped in an altruistic way that led to you receiving or accomplishing something as well?
3) Do you agree with Thoreau? Why or why not? Would you say you tend to live a life of quiet desperation? Why or why not? If not, what is it that allows you to live a different kind of life, a life of hopes and dreams?
READ: Philippians 4:12-13 and the Quotes By Greg and Richard Bach in the same section of the notes above.
1) Pastor Greg said one of the excuses people give for not pursuing their dreams is they feel dreams only come true for special or exceptional people and not for “ordinary” people like themselves. Greg profoundly disagreed and cited this passage as one of his reasons for that belief. 2) Do you believe you can do “all things through Christ who gives you strength?” Why or why not? Do you think there are any limits when it comes to “all things?” Do you believe you are “the apple of God’s eye?” Why or why not?
READ: The Quote By Edward Everett Hale
1) Do you agree with this positive attitude? Why or why not? Do you try to actively practice this in your life? Why or why not?
1) Do you feel like it is too soon or too late to pursue your dream? If so, why? Greg called this an “excuse” and indicated we need to overcome the false mindset that was preventing us from making the changes and taking the necessary steps to begin pursuing our dream. Can you identify at least one small step that would get you a little closer to realizing your dream?
1) Greg said, “If someone is regularly trying to silence or dismiss your hopes or deny your progress in pursuing your dream you need to face the painful awareness that maybe that person isn’t actually your friend.” – Do you agree or disagree? Why?
READ: 1 Samuel 16:6-7 ad 1 Samuel 17:45-47
1) If we could see all of Jesse’s sons lined up in a row before us, knowing nothing of the passages we just read and we were asked which one do you think has the best chance of defeating the giant warrior Goliath, winning the hand of Saul’s daughter and one day becoming the future King of Israel, would any of us pick David out of the lineup? Why or why not?
2) When others look at you or listen to you, do they sometimes underestimate you, perhaps due to your appearance and simply because they don’t know the level of talent, experience, wisdom or passion you possess?
3) Do you ever underestimate yourself in these ways because you compare your own success or appearance or wealth or other aspects of your life to someone else? Why is that an unhealthy and unhelpful practice? What can you do to break that habit?
4) How would you advise a friend or family member who gets weighed down by “the comparison trap?”