Have you ever gotten your hopes up only to have it not work out the way you wanted it to? Of course you have! We all deal with disappointment in our lives. Jesus teaches us to “take one day at a time” but sometimes it feels like we are getting jumped by a bunch of days all at once, yeah? It’s easy to feel overwhelmed, to feel like you’re “Running on Empty.” In this two-part series, Pastor Greg will share Biblical wisdom for how we can deal with, and overcome, our feelings of disappointment. He’ll help us fill up our spiritual and emotional gas tank again.
Disappointment is the psychological reaction to an outcome that does not match up to expectations. The greater the disparity between expected outcome and the actual outcome, the greater the level of disappointment. ~ Pastor Greg
TOP TWO CAUSES THAT LEAD TO DISAPPOINTMENT
1) UNREALISTIC EXPECTATIONS or ARROGANCE
“If you want to make God laugh, tell Him YOUR plans!”
Come now, you who say, “Today or tomorrow we will go to such and such a city,
and spend a year there and engage in business and make a profit.” Yet you do not know what your life will be like tomorrow. You are just a vapor that appears for a little while and then vanishes away. Instead, you ought to say, “If the Lord wills, we will live and also do this or that.” ~ James 4:13-15
Both the heretical religious form of Christianity called “Word of Faith” and the secular version known as “The Law of Attraction” are essentially the same philosophy as they both come from the same metaphysical New Age roots. ~ Pastor Greg
Simply put, the Law of Attraction is the ability to attract into our lives whatever we are focusing on. It is believed that regardless of age, nationality or religious belief, we are all susceptible to the laws which govern The Universe, including the Law of Attraction. ~ TheLawOfAttraction.com Website
You know, you don’t see faith healers working in the hospitals for the same reason you don’t see psychics winning the lottery. ~ Pastor Greg
2) PESSIMISM or LACK OF FAITH
You cannot serve God and wealth. For this reason I say to you, do not be worried about your life, as to what you will eat or what you will drink; nor for your body, as to what you will put on. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothing? Look at the birds of the air, that they do not sow, nor reap nor gather into barns and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not worth much more than they? And who of you by being worried can add a single hour to his life? You of little faith! Do not worry then, saying, ‘What will we eat?’ or ‘What will we drink?’ or ‘What will we wear for clothing?’ For the Gentiles eagerly seek all these things; for your heavenly Father knows that you need all these things. But seek first His kingdom and His righteousness, and all these things will be added to you. “So do not worry about tomorrow; for tomorrow will care for itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own. ~ Matthew 6:24b-34
And we know that God causes all things to work together for good to those who love God, to those who are called according to His purpose. ~ Romans 8:28
ALOHA GROUP DISCUSSION QUESTIONS
1) When was the lass time you felt disappointment? What happened? Did you feel other emotions like anger, frustration or sadness?
3) What is the worst disappointment you have ever experienced?
4) What were your expectations in that situation?
5) Looking back now, do you feel if your expectations had been different, maybe even just adjusted slightly, you would not have felt disappointment so keenly?
READ: James 4:13-15
1) Is James saying it is sinful for us to make any plans, to invest for the future? If we plan a vacation or develop a business plan to better our financial situation are we wrong or is James saying something else?
2) What is the implied difference between saying “I’m going to take a cruise next year” and “If the Lord wills I am going to take a cruise next year?”
3) Do you agree or disagree with the statement ““If you want to make God laugh, tell Him YOUR plans!” Why?
READ: Matthew 6:24b-34 and Psalm 37:25
1) Are you a “worrier?” If so, how so? If not, why not? If so, rate your worrying level on a scale of 1-10. What is the cause of your anxiety?
2) Are there things in life that it is okay for us to be worried about and other things it is not okay to be worried about? Why or why not?
3) The psalmist indicates the righteous will never go hungry. Jesus indicates if we seek first the Kingdom of God and His righteousness we will never go hungry, thirsty or naked. Yet, there are people in these situations around the world who would claim that they have done these things and still suffer in these ways. How do we, explain this to people who raise these objections.
4) Jesus indicated that we don’t need to worry about the future. We just need to take life one day at a time. Specifically, how do we go about doing that, taking life one day at a time and not worrying about tomorrow?
READ: Romans 8:28
1) Have you found this to be true in your life? Why or why not?
2) Can you relate to the old farmer story Pastor Greg shared: “Bad luck, good luck, who can really tell?” Have you had this experience in your life: Something didn’t go the way you wanted it to and you were disappointed. But later, you experienced something far better that you would have missed out on if things had initially gone the way you wanted them to? Share with your Aloha Group.
3) Is this just good luck or fate or destiny? Or is this God working behind the scenes on your behalf? Paul says your part in this is to “love God” and “be called according to His purpose.“ What does that mean? If someone does NOT love God is NOT called according to His purpose is it possible things won’t work out for their good? Why or why not?